Love is an inevitable ingredient of life and whether we like it or not everyone experienced being loved.
Your First Love
Everyone belongs to a family and everyone is born into a family. This is the first environment that we were reared upon and continues to be a part of our life. A family is for a lifetime relationship.
When we are weaned from the family we were born into we are engrafted into another family called ‘extended family’.
Being born into a family is to receive all the benefits of physical, psychological, political and social growths and developments.
By physical, you will be fed and nourished by all the blessings the household owns and enjoys.
By psychological, you feel you have a group you belong to. It is the first environment that accepts you, understands you, and provides you with all the support to gain your personhood, with trust, confidence. It is where you form your assertions in life. It is where you build your emotional sensibilities.
By political, you will learn to manage the affairs of a group by being a part of it. You will learn to decide wisely and practically. It is where you will learn the give and take responsibility.
It is where you will develop and exercise humility and power. The family is where power and responsibility, time management is shared.
Second Love, the Extended family
When we are weaned from the family we were born into, we are engrafted to another family called ‘extended family’.
Let’s accept that this is already our second love for the original one is the family where we were born into and developed.
The extended family is the extension of your relationship from the original one. It is where you will practice or apply what you have developed from your first family.
This time as you continue to develop your personhood you are to teach your children the values you have acquired. While this is your extended family it is the original and first family of your children to be.
Third Love, the Milieu
When we say milieu, it is the “community”, and we are referring to all living things around us. Animals, vegetation can let you feel love as humans do. Plants, both small and big exude oxygen from their leaves that provide us free oxygen for our bodies. Animals show their love by helping us get done with our work.
We cannot confine ourselves to the small group of our own family, we have to break out and have social contacts and this is the milieu. The community around us will continue to love us, accept us, form and develop us.
All our family values can be adapted or we can assimilate values from the community. We learn the ways of loving one another.
So where do we go that we cannot find love? None!
Everywhere we can find love,
we can extend and share the love.
That makes the world go round.